I meant to post this a while ago, but alas it was hidden away in the depths of my journal. Last year I went through an unexpected “heartbreak” (most of them are unexpected). If I’m being honest, I was miserable for a bit. But being the optimist I am, I wrote about why getting hurt is a good thing.
I am going to directly quote my journal. I made good points, but the hurt is still there. I am glad that I have given up those feelings of rejection and bitterness. If you are hurting, I can promise you that those feelings will subside and you can get to a better place in your life.
When it happened–I was torn up inside, angry, and empty all at the same time. I know it is silly, but at that time I thought I would never get over it. I thought that my heart would never fix itself and that I would always be broken on the inside. While I haven’t started dating again, I know that I am not broken and that I am deserving of love and a healthy relationship.
Falling in love and then face-planting on what felt like cement has made me emotionally intelligent. I am more empathetic and aware of my actions as well as other people’s actions. I used to not understand the complex idea of love and why/how other people were in love. I am starting to understand more. I no longer make fun of those in love or those having “boy” problems. Being hurt has given me a clear idea of what I actually want from a partner and from myself.
I feel like this experience was a “rite of passage”. Unfortunately, nearly everyone feels heartbroken at some point. Now I am just another member of the club.
This was a very vulnerable post and not one that was easy for me to write. I hope this is relatable and helpful.
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