We are all hypocrites, aren’t we? We are so quick to tell others how to “fix” their life, but we often don’t take our own advice. It’s so easy to give our opinion, but when looking at our own lives we seldom change. Even I am guilty of this.
I often tell people that they need to love themselves and I tell people that they need to be more empowered. The no. 1 thing I always tell people – “you shouldn’t care what people think”. Hypocrisy. I always care what people think. I try so hard not to, but I can be a huge people pleaser. It aggravates me so much if someone doesn’t like me or I can tell they’re judging me. I haven’t gotten much better about it either, I’m just better at hiding it.
I would give you advice on this, but I am a hypocrite and you’re probably one too!
If you have been following my blog, then you know that I was on a 10 day trip. I traveled to the “South” and did service work and also experienced the rich culture of Savannah, Georgia.
Georgia isn’t often on people’s list of places to vacation, but I truly think it is worth the visit! What’s not to like? Savannah has: an amazing downtown, rich (also dark) history, friendly people, tasty food, awesome bars, and peaches are literally everywhere.
If you are planning a trip to Savannah, here is what you need to check out. If you aren’t planning a trip to Savannah, then I hope this persuades you to go.
*Pictures included at the end of the post.
This was probably my favorite thing I did in Savannah. The city has a fascinating history and because of this, there are allegedly quite a few spirits. The haunted tour I did was a walking tour, but there are some that are in a bus. There are various haunted tours so it’s easy to pick one to suit your needs. The one I did was the “adult” version and we walked around downtown Savannah at night and went to key spots. Our tour guide also showed us photographic evidence of paranormal activity. Whether you are a skeptic or not, the haunted tours are informational and fun.
When you think of the deep south, picturesque Spanish Moss trees and plantations often come to mind. The Wormsloe Historic Site is exactly that. This historic site used to be a plantation and was established by one of Georgia’s colonial founding fathers. Not only is this historic site gorgeous, there are tabby ruins and recreations of colonial structures. Films have even used this location for scenery. The descendents still live on part of the property, but the rest is open to the public. However, a tour of the plantation will cost a few dollars. In my opinion, it is worth it though.
This cemetery is open to the public and free to tour. The cemetery is beautiful and has impressive burial plots. It is located by the Wilmington River and was even featured in, “Midnight in the Garden of Good and Evil”. This is a great place for learning more about the history of Savannah.
This isn’t one place, but a section of downtown Savannah. You might have guessed from the name, but this part of town runs adjacent to the Savannah river. It nearly consists of bars and restaurants. Unfortunately, I wasn’t able to stop at every single restaurant. But, the bars and restaurants I went to were great. The drinks were always flowing and I even had some vegan options. I went on a haunted pub crawl and most of the bars we stopped at were along the river. It blew my mind that I was having a beer in a three hundred year old cotton factory.
Museums and Squares
So many museums and not enough time. The first museum I went to was the “Ralph Mark Gilbert Civil Rights Museum. This museum is small, but well-organized and extremely informational. This museum documents the struggles of the civil rights movement specifically in Georgia. If you are a history lover, then I recommend this museum. The staff was also friendly and knowledgable. I also visited the Sorrel-Weed House. This isn’t a traditional museum, it is a historically accurate representation of the original Francis Sorrel House. It is considered a historic landmark and it is commonly referred to as haunted. The house is beautiful and the story behind it is intriguing. The only drawback is it $20 per person to tour.
Downtown Savannah also has many squares. Each of them are scenic and make you feel like you are in a different time period. One is called, “Lafayette Square” and there is also “Forsyth Park”. Basically, there is a pretty park/square every few blocks. If you are a little worn out from all of the haunted tours and drinking, I suggest sitting on a quiet park bench in Lafeyette Square.
This is technically outside of Savannah, but everyone in Savannah goes to Tybee Island. This small island (barrier island) town is known for its calm and sandy beaches. The beach has a large pier and pavilion. The beach was clean and the water was nice. It was very scenic and had a lot of wildlife. I would say that it is perfect for everyone. There is also a still functioning light house from the 18th century. People were very friendly and there were a lot of little shops. If you are visiting the Savannah area, then I strongly urge you to visit Tybee Island.
Peace is talked about quite often. Sometimes it seems like this unattainable idea. I think most people would agree though, that it is increasingly important to find inner peace at this moment in time. Our world is in chaos and peace feels far off in the distance (this thought could have it’s own post). But I digress, a basic definition of peace is, “freedom from disturbance; quiet and tranquility”.
While we can’t always control the peacefulness in our environment, I believe I can offer some insight into this idea of peace.
First, peace is for everyone. Everyone is deserving of peace and no one should be able to take it away from you. Second, it is more about your mindset than your environment. It is easier to find peace if you live in a tranquil location, but peace is an inner feeling and belief. Lastly, everyone should want to achieve peace. This isn’t a religious thing and it should matter what belief system you adhere to. Peace needs to be a goal.
If you are having trouble achieving peace, then I urge you to immerse yourself in a passion or find a quiet place to sit and think. You don’t need to be a master of meditation to find peace, you just need to find activities that are relaxing and fulfilling. Inner peace takes a while to develop, so patience is extremely important. You are not going to become “zen” overnight.
Peace “takes work”. Throughout your day, you need to take deep breaths and you need to be more aware of yourself and how you interact in your environment. Something that helped me, was when I realized that getting personally offended is pointless. Everyone lives in their own world, so to that person what they said or did wasn’t intended to be offensive because in “their world” it’s not. Of course, this doesn’t apply to situations in which people intentionally hurt you (you shouldn’t be around those people anyway). But when I realized this idea-that everyone lives in their own world, it was instantly easier to achieve peace within myself.
Activities that help me find peace:
~ Hiking, walking, and running. Basically anything in gives me a peaceful sensation.
~ Listening to music while laying down.
~ Writing lists.
~ Thinking about something bigger than myself. Take yourself out of your body if that makes any sense.
~ The sound of rain on my window. You can look up rain sounds online or download an app called “Calm”.
~ Being around animals. Spend some time with your pet or volunteer at an animal shelter.
I do not judge anyone that eats meat. I just wanted to get that out-of-the-way first. I believe that going vegan is a personal choice. While it has been a very positive change for me, I understand that it is not feasible for every single person in the world.
There were two main reasons I decided to adopt a vegan lifestyle. The first reason was for my health. The other reason was I felt ethically pulled to veganism. Listed below are positive aspects of “going vegan” (in my opinion).
Health. Research indicates that a healthy diet should be centered around fruits, veggies, and legumes (plant-based). Many doctors recommend reducing red meat intake and recommend cutting out processed food. Before I became vegan, I was sluggish and I had a lot of digestive issues. Now that my diet is plant-based, I have more energy, my skin has improved, and I have little to no digestive problems. Small amounts of lean meats can be healthy for you, but this leads to my next point.
Ethics. To put it simply, I am against the mistreatment of animals. I do not agree with animals being treated as a product. While I know that some farm animals are free-range, industries do not have enough regulations. A company/brand can say that their animals are ethically treated, but there are no safeguards or standards to ensure ethical treatment. I have peace of mind knowing that what I put in my body has no ties to the mistreatment of creatures.
Sustainability. Meat and dairy production uses so much water and energy. I’m not going to list statistics, but it is shocking that one hamburger uses 660 gallons of water. If you are on the path to a more sustainable living or you want to help out the environment, then I strongly recommend reducing your meat and dairy intake.
Positivity. This aspect is hard to prove because it is personal to everyone. I feel more positive and untethered since I have been vegan. I don’t have much of explanation for this, this is just how I feel. I think when you align your values to your actions, then your quality of life improves.
Thanks for reading! I just want to reemphasize that I am not pressuring anyone into veganism, I just simply wanted to share some benefits I have noticed.
It is extremely easy to get caught up in our vanity. Unfortunately, our society puts a lot of value in our outward appearance. We compare ourselves to our friends, people on magazine covers, and our favorite celebrities.
It breaks my heart to know that some people hate themselves solely because of their looks. People won’t leave their houses unless they have layers of makeup on and wear clothes that cover nearly every inch of flesh (not judging if you love that style). Individuals very dear to me have confessed to me that “no one will ever want to be with me because I am heavy”.
Honestly, this disgusts me. Enough is enough. No one should feel useless because of their body. Who or what is responsible for this? I do not know the answer. But, what I do know is that your body is just flesh. Your body is a vessel that carries your soul, which is your true essence and your true source of beauty. It is more important to be a good human and radiate light. We need to stop putting so much emphasis on physical attraction. I’m not saying that outer beauty is completely useless; but instead of saying “but she’s really pretty” or “he’s super hot though”, we need to say “they were so kind to me”.
Your appearance should never be an excuse for people to disrespect you or make you feel dehumanized. You should treat your body right, but obsessing over your beauty is a waste of energy. Worrying about your appearance will make you miserable. Instead, I challenge you to look at how you treat other people and even yourself. Are you kind? Are you giving? Are you smart? If all you have to offer is your outer beauty, then you are essentially empty. I am a believer that if you put out good “vibes”, then good things will find you regardless of your body type/clothes/face/style.
Thanks for reading! Please share your thoughts on this topic!
I’m all about natural products. I’ve heard a lot about iHerb and I was always wanting to try it. I recently ran out of some beauty products and vitamins so I decided to finally browse iHerb. At first, I was a little overwhelmed by the website. There are so many products to choose from! The great thing is their website separates everything into categories and has a search option. It was incredibly easy to navigate through all of the supplements and beauty products.
I was pleased with their selection of products, everything I looked at was natural and cruelty-free. Everything was also reasonably priced. Ordering was simple and I received my purchase in about 3 days. Below are the products I ordered!
I haven’t used these products for long, but so far I am pleased. They’re fairly basic products. I take l-lysine for inflammation and skin problems and the rest are just beauty and hair products. My order was processed quickly and arrived in the mail shortly. Overall, I enjoyed ordering from iHerb and I plan to order again in the future.
Disclaimer: the featured image is not mine, it is from the iHerb website.
If you believe it will work, then it will work…The phrases “manifestation” and “Law of Attraction” are buzzing right now. It all seems so appealing. Simply changing your thoughts, will ultimately change your life. I am unsure if I 100% believe in the Law of Attraction, but I do believe that positivity is powerful.
Actively focusing on positive vibes has made my life, for lack of a better word, easier. Overcoming tough times is simpler when my outlook is focused on personal aspirations and gratitude. I find achieving my goals to be manageable and I feel I am truly living my purpose.
Making lists has been super beneficial for me and it is something I would strongly recommend. Every night, I make a list about what I am grateful for. Even the small things count. I also avidly write about my goals and what I want my future to look like. Nearly everything I write about ends up actually happening.
You will receive what you put out into the “universe”. I feel that when you visualize your ideal life, you start attracting the right things and people. Personally, manifestation has worked for me. But, you have to do more than just imagine. You have to work hard and stay determined on what you want. I think this is where people get confused on manifestation and Law of Attraction. You still have to work for what you want, simply wishing for something won’t make it appear. You also have to keep in mind that what you want might not be the right thing for your life at that moment. Patience is to manifestation as well. You need to trust the “universe” or whatever word you want to use, but you also need to put trust in yourself.
I was sitting in class the other day. As I listened to the monotonous explanation of statistical analysis, tears welled up in my eyes. It wasn’t the mathematics that moved me, but something in me was wakened (not in a dirty way). I thought about the kind of person I was last April.
From the outside looking in, not much has changed with me. I have the same hairstyle, for the most part I wear the same clothes, and I have the same attitude. Reviewing last April to this April, I feel like (and most likely am) a completely different person. I’ve been happy, I’ve been sad. I was in love and I was heartbroken. I have been poor and I have been financially stable.
In my “core” I haven’t wavered, but experiences have affected me in a way that I am forever grateful for. The past 365 days served as a series of self-reflection. The negative experiences have brought about change in perspective and the positive ones have given me a fulfilling gratitude. I view every interaction as meaningful, even the painful ones. I am self-aware and my strength in my character is better than ever. I am not constantly competing with others, my self-worth is not determined by how others perceive me, and I am faithful to myself.
I am now speaking my truth…
It’s going to take patience and determination to live your values and grow in who you are. It took me a year to realize I wasn’t living genuinely. Laugh, cry, sleep, run, love, live, travel, binge watch TV, paint, write, work, travel. Find meaning and fulfillment in whatever you choose to do. It’s okay to change behaviors and it’s great to admit that you need to grow. Taking some time to reflect is also never a bad idea. I am not here to explain to you the meaning of life. But, living genuinely and authentically is how I achieved satisfaction with myself, my life, and my surroundings.
Before I went vegan, I loved hamburgers. I know that is something I probably shouldn’t admit to, but it’s true. I have found that veggie burgers and quinoa patties are great alternatives to traditional burgers. It’s really not as complicated as you might think (only a few key ingredients). My recipe is listed below, but I am really bad about measuring out ingredients when I cook so please keep that in mind.
1 cup of corn (or 1/2 of a can)
1 cup of black beans (1/2 of a can)
Cooked quinoa (between 1-2 cups)
Seasoning (I used garlic, salt, onion powder, and pepper)
1 Tablespoon of olive oil
Lettuce, tomato, vegan mayo, and bread/tortilla
Preparation: Blend together corn, black beans, quinoa, and spices (I use a ninja blender). You could also use pinto beans if you don’t have black beans on hand. In a medium skillet, heat up olive oil (medium heat) and put a large spoonful of the mixture in the center of the skillet. Wait for one side to become crispy and then flip (approximately 5 minutes). Top with lettuce, tomato, and your favorite condiments.
This recipe makes 3-4 patties and takes about 30 minutes in total. Feel free to add different seasonings and make this recipe your own. Sometimes the patties don’t turn out symmetrical and they might crumble, but they are yummy!
It’s very easy to compare yourself to others. We live in a digital age where everyone is sharing their life on social media. This can be great to connect with people, but it is all too common to have feelings of envy and lower self-worth.
I’m not blaming social media. But, it has intensified this made up competition we have with one another. Being extreme is seen as admirable and anything in between isn’t something two write home about.
If you are in a relationship, people constantly ask you about marriage. If you are single, people ask how many dates you go on. If you are vegan, people ask if you are raw. You get the point-this goes on and on. Sometimes this is curiosity, but other times people are actually sizing you up.
I wish I had something profound to tell you. Some people are never satisfied and that is not your fault. Stop comparing yourself to those on social media (you don’t know what happens behind the scenes). Everyone has different paths and you shouldn’t feel pressured to conform. Simply being yourself is and always will be enough.
I have been hesitant to write this post. For whatever reason, I haven’t been able to put the words together to describe how I feel about minimalism. Minimalism has become more well-known in the past year because of a Netflix documentary and an abundant amount of minimalists and minimalism ideas on social media.
I was never one to have a bunch of stuff I don’t need. I have always valued my happiness and quality of life over material possessions. My parents taught me and my sister to not hold onto things and we regularly donated possessions to charity. I always thought minimalism was referring to white and gray interior design, almost like sterile hospital rooms. While this may promote minimalism, minimalism is not a specific design.
I am at a cross roads in my life (sorry this is all over the place). I spend a fair amount of time reevaluating my values and my purpose. Minimalism has simplified my life and on a deeper level it has reaffirmed my values, purposes, and basically the direction I’m going. Simplifying my possessions to only things that are meaningful and add value has given me a sense of freedom. I thought that living with less would make me feel restricted, but the opposite is true. I feel carefree and it doesn’t matter what other people think anymore. Why should I care what some random person thinks about my lifestyle? The people who judge how others live are typically people who are not even well-liked; so it shouldn’t matter.
I don’t like to tell others how to live. If minimalism isn’t your “thing” that’s fine. But for me, minimalism along with other changes has greatly improved my life. I am not usually the type of person to label myself, but I would proudly label myself a minimalist. Peace, freedom, serenity, purpose, and importance are all words I associate with my life and at the same time-minimalism. I urge you to research minimalism and maybe try it for yourself. I also recommend “The Minimalists” a documentary on Netflix and they will be able to describe it better than I can. Thanks for taking the time to read this rambling and I hope it is useful!
Exhausted, fed-up, and barely functioning. Recently, I have experienced a low-point. I am not saying I’m depressed because I am far from it. People go through ups and downs and it’s perfectly normal, but lately it’s been hard for me to get excited about basically anything. Constantly switching between class and work has definitely taken a toll on me. Anything outside of school and work seems like a chore even if it is a social event.
While I am not completely out of this funk–finding new hobbies, and analyzing my attitude has improved my drive a great deal. Changing your attitude is easier said than done and it is something I am still working on. I just make sure to rid all negative thoughts from my head and I try to go into everything with an open mind. On the other hand, finding new hobbies and inspirations has been fairly easy. Taking a look at my surroundings-I see all of these amazing opportunities. I have started saying yes to more things and doing so has allowed me to become more involved in my community and on my campus. Also, I love nature so in my little amount of free time I go out and take pictures of my favorite places. I believe that you can find beauty anywhere and in surprising places. Doing this has really brought me closer to my friends because they admire what I am doing and this has given me something to do that is also meaningful. This is important, you should have hobbies; but I believe they should add value and more purpose to your life (as with anything).
Thanks for reading and I hope this impacts you in some way!
I know the title is weird, but hear me out! We are always looking for things and amounts to make us happy. This idea came to me when I posted on my Instagram and I received more likes and follows than normal. For some reason I thought that I would be happier. I was slightly pleased, but for some reason I thought that I would be an even happier person.
People think that reaching so many followers on their blog will make them happier or if they lose that amount of weight they wanted they will be happy. True happiness doesn’t come from material things or numbers of followers. True happiness is learned and comes from within. Now with social media, many people are consumed with how many likes and shares they get. This is just another form of greed.
You don’t have to give up your goals or social media to be happy, you just need to remember what is fulfilling to you. If you want to lose weight-that’s a great goal, but if getting to a certain number becomes an obsession it’s time to reevaluate. I have to constantly remind myself that I just have to do what makes me happy and not to worry if other people will like it. Your happiness comes from self-love and fulfillment. Look at your way of life and ask yourself, what is it lacking? I guarantee your answer isn’t going to be 10,000 YouTube subscribers. Your answer will probably be quality time with friends/family or traveling and new adventures. Stop looking to things and people to make you happier, take control of your life and do more of what gives you joy. It is easier said than done, but continually remind yourself of the life you want and force yourself out of you comfort zone. But, also be grateful for all that you have. Go explore, do dumb stuff with your friends, try that new yoga class, get a pet, spend a day volunteering. These are the things that will be meaningful to your life. When you are 80 years old you will be reminiscing about your trip to Paris, not the number of likes you got on Facebook.
Personally, I love going to thrift stores. It’s a great way to reuse and recycle clothes, books, and other possessions. I really don’t care if other people judge me for it, I will still go to thrift stores.
Not too long ago, I went to my local Goodwill. I regularly donate items to Goodwill, but this time I went I was a consumer. I was mostly trying to kill time–turns out I actually found some quality items.
I got three books that I am looking forward to reading. “The Five People You Meet In Heaven”, “American Creation”, and “The House Gun”. I also purchased a necklace and blouses for school. Additionally, I got a gray sweater that I literally wear all the time, a flannel, and a pair of jeans. I didn’t keep my receipt, but the most expensive thing I bought was under $6. I know not everything at a thrift store is in good condition.But, I took my time and made sure the items I bought were in good condition. If it turns out that I don’t like these items, then I only lost a few dollars so it’s no big deal!
For me, physical health is not about getting those 6-pack abs. It’s about feeling strong and healthy. Working out is honoring your body and it shows what you are capable of. I try to exercise on a regular basis. Running and Yoga are my favorites.
I typically run or do some cardio for at least 40 minutes (5 days a week). I prefer running outside, but when the weather isn’t ideal I will go to the gym.
I also do some strength training (3 days a week). For this, I lift lighter weights with more reps. This builds lean muscle.
I try to do core workouts a couple times a week. Yoga is great for your core, my goal is to do Yoga once a week. Other core workouts include: planks, crunches, Russian twists, Pilates, etc.
Since I run a lot, I sometimes ignore my leg muscles. I do squats and lunges frequently, but maybe not as much as I should.
If you have a hard time finding motivation to go to the gym, I suggest finding an exercise/activity you love and focusing more on that. Some people need more excitement, if you are one of those people I recommend activities like rock climbing, crossfit, skateboarding, skiing, etc.
It’s more important to feel good and healthy. When considering your fitness routine, this should be kept in mind. It’s not something you should obsess over, but it’s also not something you should ignore.
I’ve been to Nashville many times, but I go home wanting more each time. Not because it is a bad city, but because I always want to explore it further and it seems I always run out of time. To sum it up, Nashville has great food, great music, and a great atmosphere. You don’t have to have a plan when you go there, you can simply walk down the street and find something to do.
I meant to post this a while ago, but alas it was hidden away in the depths of my journal. Last year I went through an unexpected “heartbreak” (most of them are unexpected). If I’m being honest, I was miserable for a bit. But being the optimist I am, I wrote about why getting hurt is a good thing.
I am going to directly quote my journal. I made good points, but the hurt is still there. I am glad that I have given up those feelings of rejection and bitterness. If you are hurting, I can promise you that those feelings will subside and you can get to a better place in your life.
When it happened–I was torn up inside, angry, and empty all at the same time. I know it is silly, but at that time I thought I would never get over it. I thought that my heart would never fix itself and that I would always be broken on the inside. While I haven’t started dating again, I know that I am not broken and that I am deserving of love and a healthy relationship.
Falling in love and then face-planting on what felt like cement has made me emotionally intelligent. I am more empathetic and aware of my actions as well as other people’s actions. I used to not understand the complex idea of love and why/how other people were in love. I am starting to understand more. I no longer make fun of those in love or those having “boy” problems. Being hurt has given me a clear idea of what I actually want from a partner and from myself.
I feel like this experience was a “rite of passage”. Unfortunately, nearly everyone feels heartbroken at some point. Now I am just another member of the club.
This was a very vulnerable post and not one that was easy for me to write. I hope this is relatable and helpful.
The importance of service has always been present in my life. My parents stressed the idea of giving back and community involvement. In school, I consistently volunteered. When I was religious, I was very dedicated to service.
This isn’t some satirical article about volunteering. I truly believe that volunteering and community service are valuable activities individually and for society as a whole.
You might be wondering why I am posting about this. Well, I will be absent from blogging for about 10 days because I will be on a service trip (Savannah, Georgia). I want to stay in the moment, so I will not be posting during this time and I will rarely use social media. I will try to give updates of my trip in two weeks.